My Approach to Helping
The crux of my approach is simple, but versatile: I use anything and everything available to make breakthroughs possible. EMDR for working through feeling stuck trauma and Gottman methods for couples hoping to repair & reconnect. (Well worth YouTubing either to get a sense of them.)
Once we understand each other and you are insight-equipped, I’ll encourage putting insight into action. But in ways that feel authentic to your personal experience of things. NOTE: This tends to be the most elusive phase of things because individuals mistakenly associate “gaining new insights” with effective change. It’s better to assume insights = psychological fuel, but acting on your new found wisdom yields the life you’ve hoped for! One must turn this corner for the real rewards!
MORE ON WHY I DO WHAT I DO:
About a 3rd of my clients progress best through being heard and having me carefully “reframe” our conversations for them. The advantage being: I hold up a mirror and encourage their successful moves. When we aren’t doing this, we explore what caused the ineffective decisions and behaviors. This approach allows you to benefit greatly from steering the therapeutic alliance from begin to finish. Clients report this approach as “feeling like something Zen.”
Another 3rd of my clients are more eager for me to more actively guide the conversation in order to coach model them help toward practicing new approaches over no longer effective decision & behaviors. This approach is a far cry from the overly-assertive methods seen on popular TV! It merely involves my being more active and, in some cases, more disclosure of my own clinical impressions for those who need practice after finding their own resources impaired.
The remaining 3rd of my clients tend to benefit from a collaborative mix of the former two approaches. Toward the last several sessions with virtually all of my clients, our familiarity with each other allows this integrated approach to come about organically. Your own experiences (in and out of session) will determine how this progresses.
Nothing is more distinctive and nebulous than the nature of one’s emotions. An old therapists’ maxim says “Emotions are never wrong; only actions can be wrong. Emotions don’t need to be justified. They just need to be felt.”
More Info About My Practice
I am currently in the West Loop and Old Irving Park neighborhoods. If needed, I offer a very sensible sliding scale rate. Typically, 55 minutes is $125-$150 for psychotherapy. Reasonable accommodations can be made. Both you and I will find that this is better in the end.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
There is nothing better than seeing a former client walking down the sidewalk looking like they are happy with the course of their life. I talk about this kind of experience all the time with colleagues. Sometimes we even toast to them privately. I have the best job in the world!
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
It is NOT unusual to feel ambivalent about entering a dialogue like this! Especially given that pondering “whether to see a therapist?” was likely precipitated by murkytroublesome personal content. I would suggest you make the leap with a counselor who you feel *gets* you, then push past the ambivalence. You deserve the peace of mind and certainty. There’s no advantage to letting that kind of thing drag on.
What Makes up a Problem?
My best statement I’ve heard about the overlap of these three things is this:
“The genetics load the gun;
The personality and psychology aim it;
The circumstances pull the trigger.”
Client Focus (Age)
Billing and Insurance:I am an in-network provider for:
- Blue Cross Blue Shield (BCBS)
- United Behavioral Health
Fees: Typically, it’s $150.00 a session. But I frequently create sliding scale arrangements. I’m not in this to fleece people : )
Sliding Scale Available Clinicians who offer sliding scale payment structures may offer lower or reduced fees based on an individual’s ability to pay. Please contact this clinician for more details regarding their fees or sliding scale policy.
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